A break-up, whether it’s a friendship or relationship, is hard to deal with. you may feel powerful in the heat of the moment and you’re sure you made the right decision for the both of you.
But the aftermath is always hard to deal with when you’re alone rethinking the whole situation and your choices, especially when there’s no closure involved.
So here are some ideas to help you find closure when you can’t find anything else but talk to the person.
1. Know that you don’t need the other person to give it to you.
know that the other person doesn’t owe you anything anymore. you ended things between the two of you and now it’s your turn to deal with it. Because it’s something you create between you and you only!
2. Grieve
You lost something important in your life, it’s important to let yourself grieve and process your emotions in a safe place. Don’t hold back and don’t judge yourself either. Just let it be. Take your time dealing with your emotions until you feel good again.
3. Let them go physically
Cut them off your socials and contact list. don’t contact them. It’s hard to let them go emotionally but cutting them physically is a great way to start
4. Write your feelings down.
Take a piece of paper and write down your feelings, everything you feel you want to say you want to do… and burn it. If you don’t like burning then shred the paper and throw it in a bin far from home.
5. Stop the Blame cycle
After things end, we tend to blame ourselves or the other person for ending things. It’s not anyone’s fault. it’s just the way it is. Take it as so: It ended when I had to”.
6. Work on forgiveness
The only way to find closure and feel better about the break-up is with forgiveness. Forgive yourself and the other person. Don’t hold a grudge nor hate yourself over old mistakes that you assume were the reason for your break up.
7. Accept that you won’t get an apology from them
Whether it’s your partner or friend accept that you won’t get an apology nor that they will text you. and that’s okay! Work on yourself and your self-improvement as a human being.
8. Cleanse your old memories
This is a nice way of closure and moving on, recreate your best memories with this person with other people you love.
9. Get a life
Do something exciting in your life that will keep your mind busy. That hobby or activity you put on hold for so long, invest in it. Do more fun activities, go on new adventures…
10. Accept the break-up.
It might be the hardest thing you heard today, but acceptance is halfway through healing.