How to find closure so you can move on

A break-up, whether it’s a friendship or relationship, is hard to deal with. you may feel powerful in the heat of the moment and you’re sure you made the right decision for the both of you.

But the aftermath is always hard to deal with when you’re alone rethinking the whole situation and your choices, especially when there’s no closure involved.

So here are some ideas to help you find closure when you can’t find anything else but talk to the person.

1. Know that you don’t need the other person to give it to you. 

know that the other person doesn’t owe you anything anymore. you ended things between the two of you and now it’s your turn to deal with it. Because it’s something you create between you and you only!

2. Grieve

You lost something important in your life, it’s important to let yourself grieve and process your emotions in a safe place. Don’t hold back and don’t judge yourself either. Just let it be. Take your time dealing with your emotions until you feel good again.

3. Let them go physically

Cut them off your socials and contact list. don’t contact them. It’s hard to let them go emotionally but cutting them physically is a great way to start

4. Write your feelings down.

Take a piece of paper and write down your feelings, everything you feel you want to say you want to do… and burn it. If you don’t like burning then shred the paper and throw it in a bin far from home.

5. Stop the Blame cycle

After things end, we tend to blame ourselves or the other person for ending things. It’s not anyone’s fault. it’s just the way it is. Take it as so: It ended when I had to”.

6. Work on forgiveness

The only way to find closure and feel better about the break-up is with forgiveness. Forgive yourself and the other person. Don’t hold a grudge nor hate yourself over old mistakes that you assume were the reason for your break up.

7. Accept that you won’t get an apology from them

Whether it’s your partner or friend accept that you won’t get an apology nor that they will text you. and that’s okay! Work on yourself and your self-improvement as a human being.

8. Cleanse your old memories

This is a nice way of closure and moving on, recreate your best memories with this person with other people you love.

9. Get a life

Do something exciting in your life that will keep your mind busy. That hobby or activity you put on hold for so long, invest in it. Do more fun activities, go on new adventures…

10. Accept the break-up.

It might be the hardest thing you heard today, but acceptance is halfway through healing.

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The Diet Culture

“I’m on a diet”, “I can’t eat this and that because I’m on a diet”, “How many calories are there in this small bar of chocolate”…

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The diet culture has long affected people’s lives and it has gone into a whole different state where it became a lot more toxic than it should’ve been.

The diet culture is the unhealthy obsession with labeling “good’ and ‘bad’ foods, the constant struggle to lose weight fast, to be skinny like a model, and convincing yourself that this is normal.

Paranoia, anxiety, stress, anorexia, body dysphoria, and other eating disorders are all part of the toxic traits of the diet culture. People get so wrapped up in these ideas and thoughts that they stop everything they do to focus on how to execute their “genius” plan of losing weight.

The diet culture changed categories from a health issue/ healthy lifestyles to a pure business industry that “health” products are profiting of off.

Don’t get me wrong people sometimes need diet pan to stick to it and lose weight; whether for a health issue, or simply maintaining their body image. But in today’s world people stopped searching for ways to become healthy, they search for seasonal changes in their body because of what others might say if I went to the beach.

So for that and for many reasons, we will be tackling the diet culture in all its aspects and how to avoid it at all cost.

How to Deal with Trust Issues

Trust is one of the main foundations of a healthy relationship, with yourself and others. But sometimes we trust the wrong people and get hurt by people’s actions.

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This usually leads to Trust Issues in relationships with other people. We can’t trust others easily, we become more suspicious of people’s intentions and actions behind our backs.

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Signs of trust issues include:

• 1. You Focus on the Negative
• 2. You Feel Like You Have to Do Everything
• 3. Being Suspicious of Friends & Family
• 4. Avoiding Intimacy
• 5. Holding Grudges
• 6. You Pick Fights
• 7. You Keep to Yourself
• 8. You Avoid Commitment
• 9. You Spy on People or Check Their Phones
• 10. You Are a Loner
• 11. You Find Yourself in Relationships With Untrustworthy People
• 12. You Smother People You Care About
• 13. Fear of Abandonment

Past hurt and mistakes are a way to teach us lessons the hard way. But we don’t have to keep holding on to past traumas and bad experiences.

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So here’s a way to deal with your trust issues and heal yourself from old experiences.

• Take safe emotional risks: Allow yourself to practice trusting in small, safe ways. Take someone at their word. Give them the benefit of the doubt.
• Allow yourself time: If your trust has been broken, it’s going to take some time without further betrayal for the person to earn it back.
• Avoid the temptation to snoop or spy: Snooping or spying can easily become an obsessive behavior that will only make your trust issues worse.
• Take your time getting to know new people: Don’t jump into trusting people before you know them. Many people with trust issues tend to trust too quickly, keeping you stuck in the pattern.
• Communicate with your partner: Be careful not to accuse or blame. Instead, communicate clearly how you are feeling and what you need. For example, “When you came home late, I felt worried and insecure. I need you to give me a call next time.”
• Self-reflect: Spend some time thinking, journaling or talking to a friend about this pattern in your life and what is within your power to change.

How to switch to plant based diet easily

As of Tuesday’s post, we talked about the benefits of switching to a plant based diet. So this is your guide to doing so the healthy and easiest way!

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Here are seven simple strategies to help you easily transition to a wholesome, plant-based diet:

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1- Start slow

 Pick a few plant-based meals and rotate them through in a week. “Start with meals you have always enjoyed that just happen to be plant-based.

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2- Cut down meat and processed food intake.

 Instead of going cold turkey from the beginning, start by changing the proportion of plant and animal-based foods on your plate. This will give your mind and body time to accommodate to the new diet. Make simple changes like adding a large portion of salad or a fresh fruit bowl to your daily meals.

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3- Go for plant-based breakfast. 

Once you’ve tested the waters, you can take the next step by committing to eat at least one plant-based meal every day. A wholesome, vegetarian breakfast is a good place to start.

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4- Stock up on healthy foods.

Take time to explore vegetarian and fresh produce aisles at your local supermarket. Stock up your kitchen with nutritious, plant-based foods and keep healthy snack options in easily accessible places like your bag, desk drawer, kitchen counter and fridge.

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5- Keep your meals fun and exciting. 

Focus on foods you like and ones that are easily accessible to you. Then learn new ways to make those simple recipes more fun and flavorful. Try out new recipes every now and then!

Lastly, keep in mind that any transition takes time. So try, make mistakes and test the waters to see hwta works for you and helps you keep your body in harmony.

For more check the complete article here.

10 reasons why you should change to a plant based diet.

No we’re not the new “Vegan Teacher” of tiktok but we support every diet and plant based is our current favorite honestly. There are a lot of reasons as to why it’s important to switch to a plant based diet now more than ever, So here’s a list to help you know why it’s important to do so:

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1- Prevent chronic diseases.

Vegetarians tend to have a lower body mass index and lower overall cancer rates. Vegetarian diets tend to be lower in saturated fat and cholesterol and have higher levels of dietary fiber, magnesium and potassium, vitamins C and E, folate, carotenoids, flavonoids and other phytochemicals.

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2- You feel more energetic

People eating a plant-based diet have consistently found themselves to be happier, stronger, and more energetic. Better yet, a plant-based diet can boost your immune system.

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3- Help fight climate change

Non-vegetarian diets take a lot of water, money and CO2 to be produced. Meat, chicken and animal products have a higher production rate that increases the CO2 emissions in the air, and waste more money than vegetarian food.

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4- It can help solve world hunger

World hunger isn’t an issue of scarcity, it is an issue of resource allocation and distribution. It would mean that earth producing calories most efficiently and this would lead to more space for additional crops, which could help feed hungry people around the world.

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5- It saves money

Vegan/Vegetarian options are more popular and more famous around the world. Vegetables and essential vegetarian diet ingredients are cheaper than meat and animal produce.

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6- Clearer skin

Eating vegetables and reducing unhealthy, unnecessary excess of oils in your body will help the body detoxification itself from toxins faster which leads to clearer glowy skin. Plus fruits and vegetables are rich in antioxidants and other substances necessary for skin glow up.

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7- Weight loss

Vegetarian diet is rich in fiber and low in calories. So eating a full plant based meal will leave you fuller for a longer time and with much less calories which could lead to weight loss, while staying full.

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8- It will boost your heart’s health

Plant based means low fat, lower cholesterol levels, and lower blood pressure which contributes to a healthy well functioning long lasting healthy heart.

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9- Boost brain strength

It helps you protect your brain against serious illnesses, Alzheimer, risk of cognitive impairment and dementia.

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10- Overall well-being

Eating healthy, lowering blood pressure and chronic diseases risks, helping fight climate change, and improving your overall healthy and body, will lead to a whole wellness check. An overall well-being that could be inside and out

Should you add collagen supplements to your diet?

Collagen is the new trend of 2021, different celebrities and tiktok dieticians are recommending collagen in all it’s form for the skin, hair and overall well-being. But is it something worth adding to your diet and do we really need new pills to take everyday?

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What is collagen?

Collagen is the magical stuff that keeps the skin plump and smooth, and it helps keep joints strong, too. The protein can be found naturally in the body’s muscles, skin, and bones, and makes up about 25 percent of your total body mass

Some Benefits of taking COLLAGEN supplements:

1- Improves skin health.

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Collagen is a major component of your skin.

It plays a role in strengthening skin, plus may benefit elasticity and hydration. The wrinkle-reducing effects of collagen supplements have been attributed to their ability to stimulate your body to produce collagen on its own.

2- Helps Relieving joints pain

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Collagen helps maintain the integrity of your cartilage, but as the amount of collagen in your body decreases as you get older, your risk of developing degenerative joint disorders such as osteoarthritis increases

3- Prevents bone loss

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Your bones are made mostly of collagen, which gives them structure and helps keep them strong, just as the collagen in your body deteriorates as you age, so does bone mass.

4-Could boost muscle mass

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 This protein is necessary to keep your muscles strong and functioning properly.

Studies suggest that collagen supplements help boost muscle mass in people with sarcopenia, the loss of muscle mass that happens with age

5- Promotes heart health

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Collagen provides structure to your arteries, which are the blood vessels that carry blood from your heart to the rest of your body. Without enough collagen, arteries may become weak and fragile

6- Hair and nails. 

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Taking collagen may increase the strength of your nails by preventing brittleness. Additionally, it may stimulate your hair and nails to grow longer.

So yes, taking collagen supplement is a huge plus to your daily skincare routine and overall well-being.

It’s Ja’s Lifestyle Approved!

A reminder, some supplements are made of different sources of allergies for some people. Read the ingredient list before taking the supplement.

Expectations

Ahhh, expectations. How easy it is to ruin your day, week, months and years. Normally and in a very obvious way, humans tend to put expectations for everything they encounter in life. Whether it’s people, food, drinks, animals, or even random stuff they get.

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But unfortunately 90 % of the time, our expectations are never met. Which can cause a lot of distress and sadness due to the massive disappointment.

So how to stay on the safe side, without adopting some new toxic coping mechanism when it all goes down.

Take good care of yourself.

Always put yourself first, when it comes to your priorities in caring and investment. When you start loving and caring too much for yourself, you’ll automatically stop expecting love and support from others. Because at the end you’ve got no one other than yourself.

Motivate yourself

We all expect that our support system should always be the one hyping us up and giving us more and more motivation to start or continue something but this motivation should always come from within with a slight help from the world around us.

Work on your self-esteem

If you have a high self-esteem, you won’t be needing others to praise you or provide you with some of the small stuff we look for in friendships. Working on your self-esteem by practicing self-love, positive selftalk will get you through the worst situations in life at all times.

Set some realistic expectations

When you suffer a lot from expectations and usually highering them more than you should, you just can’t stop at any given moment and break through this toxic cycle. So you’ll still need to put expectations from people in your life. But what you can do here is lower them as much as possible. Be realistic about what you wish for from people, be considering of what they can offer you and what they cannot.

All these things can help you protect yourself from reality disappointment and it can save your friendships and mental health from going down the drain. So take good care of yourself to be able to take care of other people too.

Stay safe, healthy,happy, and always always, keep on smiling!

10 ways to adopt a positive mindset

We’ve all constantly heard that:”All it takes is a positive mindset”. But the struggle becomes too real when you try to do it. Adopting or changing an old mindset can be tricky so we’r here to help.

But the important thing here, is to be patient with yourself and forgiving because it is no an easy process.

So here’s a guide on how to change your mindset and adopt a more positive one:

1. Keep a gratitude journal.
2. Reframe your challenges as opportunities for growth.
3. Get good at being rejected—it happens to everyone!
4. Use positive words to describe your life.
5. Replace have with get (e.g., I have to go to work → I get to go to work).
6. Don’t let yourself get dragged down into other people’s complaints.
7. Breathe—consciously, purposefully, and mindfully.
8. Notice the righteous and good in times of tragedy and violence.
9. Have solutions ready when you point out problems.
10. Make someone else smile.
11. Start your day with a positive affirmation
12. Focus on the small things
13. Rewire your brain to find humor in bad situations
14. Transform your self-talk
15. Find good mentors and friends (positive influence/vibes)

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How to take care of your mental health

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Taking care of your mental health is becoming more and more a necessity and more common nowadays. A lot of us don’t know how to properly take care of our mental health

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So here’s a guide on how to do so in the most beneficial way possible.

1. Practice gratitude: Keep a journal with you so you can write down something you’re grateful for every day.
2. Connect with friends and family. Make time for the people you care about.
3. Go outside. Try to get at least 30 minutes of sunlight each day to improve your mood and increase energy.
4. Meditate. Set aside a few minutes each day to center yourself.
5. Get a good night’s sleep. Try fixating your sleep schedule, to get more sleep.
6. Improve your physical wellness. Try to exercise at least a few times per week and eat healthier.
7. Try out different ways of coping with stress. Find something that works for you, such as going for a walk, yoga, deep breathing, listening to music, etc.
8. Do something kind. Making someone else happy will make you feel happy, too.
9. Make time for yourself. Set aside time each day to be alone and recharge.
10. Do something you enjoy. Practice a hobby, watch a TV show you like, read a book, etc.

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Journal (how to)

Lately people have been talking about journaling, writing in their journal… It isn’t something new, you’ve probably used a diary when you were younger and now stopped.

In this article we will focus on why keeping a journal is important nowadays.

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Let’s start with the benefits you gain from journaling:

• Manage anxiety
• Reduce stress
• Cope with depression
• Helping you prioritize problems, fears, and concerns
• Tracking any symptoms day-to-day so that you can recognize triggers and learn ways to better control them
• Providing an opportunity for positive self-talk and identifying negative thoughts and behaviors
• Relax and meditate each day.
• Eat a healthy, balanced diet.
• Exercise regularly—get in some activity every day.
• Treat yourself to plenty of sleep each night.
• Stay focused on your goals (daily or the big ones).

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How to journal

These are some tips that will help you get started: (pick what suits you best)

• Try to write every day: make time for it, spare 10-20 minutes a day to focus on writing.
• Make it easy: Keep a pen and paper handy at all times, if you prefer digital journaling, keep your notes app always available.
• Write or draw whatever feels right: Your journal, your rules. Nothing is write or wrong when expressing your thoughts or emotions.
• Use your journal as you see fit: Your emotions and vulnerability are private, so is your journal.

So as you can see, keeping a journal and using it everyday will help you make your day happier, better and worth it.