Important lifestyle addition: Self-talk

When you are alone or phasing out, you practice a lot of self-talk, analyzing speeches, pep-talks, the bad ones specifically. So in this article, we will see how healthy self-talk is for your mental health and well-being.

Let us see what self-talk means:

Self-talk is the combination of words and sentences we tend to say to ourselves. While thinking about something, analyzing our current situation, or what you are about to do in the future. Self-Talk tends to be negative because, as I said before, we tend to be hard on ourselves due to society.

The importance of Self-Talk:

Only you can motivate you. Self-talk reflects your self-image. How you truly feel about yourself, how you see yourself, and what you believe in yourself. People’s opinions and comments can influence your self-talk.

The brain is like a machine. Whatever data is entering its system, it will adapt to work thoughtfully. So an example of negative self-talk: I am not good enough, I am not beautiful enough, I’m not worthy… ” your brain will automatically think nothing but these things about you. You will always feel drained, tired, unmotivated, and “unworthy”!

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But on the other hand, if your self-talk is positive: I’m lucky, talented, worthy, The whole universe will switch in your favor because you will see the universe from another perspective. You will feel more energetic, happy, motivated, and getting your blessings one after the other!

Positive self-talk is essential for one’s survival. It doesn’t come easy but, once it shifts from the negative, this is where you will get going in life. Choosing the right words when describing yourself always comes in handy and, your life will automatically change for the better. Your performance will boost so will your well-being. Your healthy mind will blow you away with its creativity and the potential that it will give you in return.

Practicing positive self-talk is essential for you to live a healthy life with a boosted well-being. Listening to good music, surrounding yourself with mentors and positive friends helps with your self-talk and your self-image.

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How to cut toxic people from your life

After spotting a toxic person in your life, it’s time to take action. (If you haven’t seen my previous post about how to spot one click here).

Spotting a toxic person needs observation, but cutting them off is the tricky part. Cutting a toxic person is full of tricks and games that needs to be taken into consideration before ending it.

BE FIRM.

Be very, very clear with the person about your intentions, be direct, and state your thoughts. There’s no need to explain yourself. Just rip that band-aid quick and go. No, that was a joke.

BOUNDARIES.

SETTING BOUNDARIES is really important when cutting someone off, especially a toxic person. They keep a safe distance between you and the other person, but what’s more important here is to never break and give them another chance to cross those boundaries. Don’t ask about their well-being one year from now. It is not your job.

IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO FIX THEM.

Toxic people aren’t your job to treat and try to fix at all. They usually show up when they need something, particularly during crisis moments in their own lives. If you still feel like you want to help them with their big problem, and it’s a really dangerous crisis, you can redirect them to a professional to handle the situation. Solving their problems is beyond your capacities, and it will end up hurting you.

DON’T GET PULLED INTO THEIR CRISIS.

Toxic people often make it seem like they “need you” because they’re always in crisis. But the important thing to know is that these are crises of their own making.

Toxic people create drama deliberately to attract more attention and engage in manipulation, so remember this the next time they ask you to run to their side. You might feel bad, but remember that you’re not dealing with a genuine person in distress.

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

While fighting a toxic person to cut them off completely, your energy, your time, and mental well-being are wasted. You need a good and healthy source to refuel. Go back to a good friend or a close family member and hang out for a while, and if you don’t feel like it, keep a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP with YOURSELF.

How to spot a toxic person in your life

Making friends and having a social life is necessary for your survival. But what’s more important is a healthy circle.

What does it mean to have a healthy circle?

Your small circle mainly is your family, really close friends, co-workers maybe. You should always keep this circle of your everyday people healthy for your well-being.

How to know if this person is toxic or not:

1. You feel emotionally drained after an encounter with them.

Do you ever feel when encountering someone that you’re tired of their same conversations about themselves over and over again? Or that they’re too negative or that everything is either gossip or criticism, to the point where you can’t take it anymore that you feel like you need a break from all that.

2. They try to intimidate you to get their way

They try to manipulate or bully you into making a choice or committing to an action that, on reflection, you feel is wrong or unnecessary.

3. They try controlling you by guilt-tripping you.

They try to use your care and love towards them into triking you to do something. It could be considered a form of emotional manipulation that is highly toxic.

4. They get jealous very easily 

They try to unfriend you with anyone that you like to go out with. They act mad and upset when you’re around other people. They trash talk the other person and make them seem the bad guy, so you stay to them only. You become kind of an obsession fully controlled prey.

5. They are always the victim

You can never accuse them of anything because they will try and shift the blame onto you or another person. They always try to rationalize their actions so they can never take any responsibility for their actions.

6. They give abusive compliments

Sometimes a toxic person in your life won’t want you to feel good about yourself because that undermines their confidence.

They feel the need to belittle, drag-down, and humiliate others — even friends — to make themselves feel better and reinstate the hierarchy in the relationship.